Interview with Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, R.N., Attorney at Law, Elder Consultant, Mediator
Interview with Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, R.N. Attorney at Law, Elder Consultant, Mediator
Interview with Dr. Mikol S. Davis, Psychologist, Eldercare Specialist
April 24, 2012 Radio Show – Interview of Carolyn Rosenblatt & Dr. Mikol Davis
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When Crisis Strikes
There’s nothing quite like a parent’s crisis to help you focus on what needs to be done. But it’s also true that your parent’s crisis can quickly become your crisis if you let it. This program will help you understand the dynamics involved in a crisis, how to quickly get organized to manage the crisis and how to use the crisis as a starting point to effective long term caring.
Part I – When it’s time to help a parent – How you know and how to get started 7:52
When is it appropriate to intervene to help a parent? When do you, for example, say no more driving? How do you know its time to step-up and become your parents’ caregiver? This program will help you focus on what your parent’s situation is, where to get help and information about their true status. It’s a complicated subject but this program can help!
Part II – Developing an Extended Care Plan 3:53
Managing long-term caring for a parent requires having a good plan. An extended care plan deals with a parent’s total life – medical and health needs, financial status and prospects, community and support services, housing, needs for daily help. Lots of questions to ask and subjects to think about.
Part III – Care Coordination – Making the Pieces Fit 6:28
How can you coordinate all the pieces that go into caregiving your parent? How can you effectively work with your family? A look at the range of support needs that you and your parent will need while you are providing care. Where to go for help and how to make the process effective and on track. This program will help you understand the pieces of the caregiving puzzle, how to make them work, and how to monitor the changing and ongoing needs associated with caring for an elder.
Business Side of Caregiving
Part I – Understanding Your Parents Finances 9:55
We don’t really want to think about it but eventually we are faced with the reality of paying for our parents long term care, and our own as well. This program deals with strategies that are critical to surviving long-term care. It also deals with the consequence of denying the inevitable and how to start focusing on getting prepared. Topics covered include talking with your parents about their finances, insurance and long-term care planning; what things you as the caregiver need to know, and what steps you can and should do for yourself to get started on plans for your own later years.
Part II – Understanding Insurance Policies 4:03
Insurance is a major part of the business side of caregiving. This program discusses the changing insurance needs of our parents and how to evaluate what they have and what they need today.
Part III – Long Term Care Insurance 15:40
Paying for long term care is one of the scariest and most important subjects when it comes to planning for our later years. This program gets into the details about long-term care insurance (LTC). Who needs it? How to buy it. How to choose a company that you can count on. For many older people, it may be too late to buy coverage so this program might be even more important for mid-lifers and pre-retirees.
Understanding the ins and outs of LTC is critical to protecting your family’s assets.
Medical and Health
Part I – Understanding and navigating the healthcare system 6:44
For many of us, the first time we are aware that our lives are about to change is when we hear that our parent has been admitted to a hospital. Planning in advance of a medical crisis is obviously advantageous. This podcast discusses some of the legal documents you and your parent should have in place as well as what you need to be able to communicate to your parent’s support network. Listen to the program to get an understanding about how to speak to medical professionals about what is really
going on with your parent.
Medical and Health Part II – Mental and physical wellness – seeing the big picture
What is the most important component of positive aging? Is it physical, mental, or something else? This program discusses ways to look at the whole person and what constitutes good health. There’s a lot more than just medical conditions that make for healthy aging. Listen to the things that you need to insist on for your parents, and you, that will help you see the full scope of your parents (or your own) health.
Distance Caregiving Part I – Long Distance Caregiving – You Can Do It! 9:33
Many of us live hundreds or thousands of miles away from our aging parents. The distance makes caregiving more complex and difficult but it can be managed effectively. This program, and the others in this series, focus on how you can provide loving and solid care even when the miles between you are great. Topics include moving to be with your parent, moving your parent to be closer to you, what’s the right thing to do? This is an important series for both parent and adult children.
Part II – Long Distance Caregiving – Building A Support Network 4:49
How do you create a support network in your parent’s home community? A support network extends your capabilities to help your parents. This program will give you several great ideas to building a network and how to manage it.
Part III – Long Distance Caregiving – Rural caregiving
What do you do when your parent lives in a rural area? Rural living may be wonderful but when you need caregiving services for a parent you have new challenges. This podcast discusses how to provide help for your parents directly or to help you monitor their situation to keep you informed. A must listen for those who have parents living at a distance in a rural setting.
Part IV – Long Distance Caregiving – Knowing when to go
Sometimes you just have to go visit your parent to see for yourself what is happening with them? But how do you know if you MUST travel? If you decide you do need to go, how can you be the most productive during your visit. Important things to consider before you get on a plane for that trip to see Mom or Dad.
Part I – Middle of the Night 6:42
Why does it always seem to happen in the middle of the night? So many of us get that call telling us that a parent has suddenly been taken to the hospital and guess what – your life is about to get a lot more complicated. The good news is that you can prepare in advance for such an emergency. This program focuses on what you can do, today, to make the plans that will be put in place when your parent has a medical emergency. This is useful information that you can use to begin planning for a more certain future.
Part II – Talking with Your Parents 13:48
No one wants to think about getting old or the responsibility of caring for an aging parent. That’s why so many of us stay in denial and try not to think about it. We also know that staying in denial can create enormous problems for your parent, you, and your own family. So we have to suck it up and be grownups. This program will give you practical ideas and direction to help you effectively talk with your parents and your siblings to develop a plan to help care for a parent. Don’t put it off, start talking today
about what plans your parents have made for their later years and how you as their caring child can help. Good information here for both adult child and aging parents – share it with those who eventually will be called on for help and long-term caring.
Housing and Support Services
Part I – So Many Choices – An Overview 10:01
Where is “home”? Perhaps the most important aspect of our life. But as we age, our housing requirements start to change. When we talk about housing, where our parent lives, uppermost in consideration is the need to maximize their independence. The good news is that there is a wide range of housing options between complete independent living at one end of the spectrum and a skilled nursing home at the other. What would you want for yourself? Obviously living at home is the number one choice. This program, and the other podcasts in this series, will help you focus your thinking so that
the complexity of where your parent lives begins to make sense.
Part II – Living Independently at Home 5:16
Living independently at home is the preferred choice for seniors and if you’re an adult child it should be your first choice as well. But how can you prolong the time that your parent can live at home, alone? The trick is to bring in support services. Services that can be done by you and other family members and services done by others –paid or volunteer. Sometimes just a few little things can be done to keep
an elder viably independent at home. Listen to this program to get a good understanding of how to keep mom or dad at home.
Part III – Assisted Living 10:16
When the time comes that a parent can no longer live independently at home is no longer viable for health or safety reasons, an assisted living facility is a great alternative. Assisted living options are for active elders who need some daily or occasional help with the activieis of daily living. It’s a social community not a nursing home. This program will clarify what an assisted living community is and is not, how to choose one, how parents can thrive in a good assisted living community, and what you can expect from moving a parent from the old home/house to the new environment.
Legal Issues: Protecting Your Wishes and Assets
Part I – The Living Will – Advance Directives for Health Care 8:50
You have a stroke or an accident and are suddenly unable to communicate to the medical team what treatments you want or don’t want. Who makes the decisions? You do, if you had written down your desires before you became incapacitated or incompetent. It can happen to any of us at any time which is why it is so important to make out your “Living Will” or Advance Directives for Health Care (the name
of this document varies from state to state) in place. This program covers all the basics about this document from what it is, why it’s so important, and how to decide to whom you should give decision making power on your behalf. It even tells you where you can get the forms for free. This is critical information that will make your choices for medical care clear and firm in the event that you are not able to answer questions from the medical team who is treating you.
Legal Part II – Power of Attorney
There are times in life when you or your parent is not able to make certain legal or financial decisions. When those times come, having a trusted family member or friend be able to make decisions, carry out financial transactions or other non-medical choices means giving them your “power of attorney” (POA), the legal tool that authorizes them to act on your behalf. There are many types of POAs but all of them have the same underlying structure. That is that you need to decide who you can trust to make
decisions for you and be certain that the person you choose is aware of the trust, responsibility, and legal power that you are giving them. This program is a great start to understanding the complexities of a power of attorney including the important issue of how to choose the right person who you want to act on your behalf when you are unable to do so for yourself.
Death and Dying
Part I – Planning for the inevitable 8:44
Since no one is getting out of here alive, we need to start talking about death seriously with our parents and our children. For many of us it is an uncomfortable subject but putting it off is certainly not the best plan. This program has practical suggestions you can use to begin a dialog with your parent and also to help you start thinking about your own death and how to start planning for yourself. Go ahead, listen, learn, and begin making the choices that can be so helpful to those left behind and grieving.
Part II – Talking about death with your parent 6:17
It’s not a happy subject. It’s hard to think about. It’s hard to talk about. But death comes to us all and talking about it directly can help you and those you love deal positively with The End. This program will help provide you some important prospective on death and may surprise you as well. Listen and learn.
Part III – Practical considerations about death 7:56
There are many practical issues surrounding death. This program deals with a range of subjects including hospice care, funeral arrangements, and practical considerations after death. There’s good solid information here that will help you focus on the things that need to be done and how to do it.
And more to come…